The “American” Way of Romance

The following exchange took place on Craigslist, the New York Community message board:

The Post

“What am I doing wrong ? I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25-year-old girl. I’m articulate and classy …

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Like a Boss

A Marine was deployed to Afghanistan. While he was there, he received a letter from his girlfriend. In the letter she explained that she had slept with two guys while he had been gone and she wanted to break up with him. And, she wanted all pictures of herself back.

So the Marine did what any squared-away Marine would do. He went around to his buddies and collected all the unwanted photos of women he could find. He then mailed about 25 pictures of women (with clothes and without) to his girlfriend with the following note:

“I don’t remember which one you are. Please remove your picture and send the rest back.”

 

How Many Other Things Are We Missing?

Washington, DC Metro Station on a cold January morning in 2007.

The man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time approximately 2000  people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.

4 minutes later:
The violinist received his first dollar: a woman threw the money …

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He Said … She Said

A girl’s dream date may be a guy’s nightmare.

In the classic “He said, She said” comedy form, two women and their men recount the unexpected pleasures and pain of the night before.

Watch the video here.

 

What Surprises You the Most ?

Someone asked the Dalai Lama what surprises him the most. This was his response:

“The man, because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future.

He lives as if he is never going to die and then he dies having never really lived.”

 

The Diary

Her Diary:

Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn’t say much. I asked him what was wrong; “Nothing”, he said. I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me and not to worry about it.

On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly and kept driving. I can’t explain his behavior, I don’t know why he didn’t say, “I love you too” …

When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep — I cried. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster !

 

His Diary:

Motorcycle won’t start … can’t figure out why.

 

European Privacy and Human Rights

Privacy International, the Electronic Privacy Information Center (EPIC) and the Center for Media and Communications Studies (CMCS), are pleased to present the study “European Privacy and Human Rights (EPHR) 2010″, funded by the European Commission’s Special Programme “Fundamental Rights and Citizenship,” 2007-2013.

Read about the study here. Visit the official site here.

 

One-Moment Meditation

The “One-Moment Meditation” helps you reduce stress, focus better and find a bit of peace … quickly.

To learn more about the “One-Moment Meditation” visit www.onemomentmeditation.com. Watch an introduction video here.

 

Wilkinson – Fight for Kisses

Watch the commercial here.

 

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The Great Practice of Kindness

Many years ago a great teacher, known as the Tree Roshi, lived in a tree and secluded and meditated for many years. After his great awakening, not only birds flocked around him, but people from all over were drawn to see him. Great groups of people gathered and begged him to come down out of the tree and share his wisdom with them. Finally, he had no choice.
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The Feelings

Once upon a time there was an island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all the others, including Love.

One day it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So, all the feelings prepared their boats to leave.

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Be Thankful For …

  • the partner who hogs the covers every night because he is not out with someone else
  • the teenager who is not doing dishes, but he is watching TV because that means he is home and not on the streets
  • for the taxes you pay because it means that you are employed
  • for the mess to clean after a party because it means that you have been surrounded by friends
  • for the clothes that fit a little too snug because it means you have enough to eat
  • for your shadow that watches you work because it means you are in the sunshine
  • for a lawn that needs mowing, windows that need cleaning and gutters that need fixing because it means you have a home
  • for all the complaining you hear about the government because it means that you have freedom of speech
  • for the parking spot you find at the far end of the parking lot because it means you are capable of walking and that you have been blessed with transportation
  • for your huge heating bill because it means you are warm
  • for the pile of laundry and ironing because it means you have clothes to wear
  • for weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day because it means you have been capable of working hard
  • for the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours because it means that you are alive

When you think your life is so bad, read this again.

 

We Do It … Ecologically

An alternative music video about the environment with the participation of 77 artists.

Watch the video here.

 

Dirt Devil -The Exorcist

Watch the commercial here.

 

Printing a Human Kidney

TED: Anthony Atala – Printing a Human Kidney

Surgeon Anthony Atala demonstrates an early stage experiment that could someday solve the organ-donor problem:
A 3D printer that uses living cells to output a transplantable kidney.
Using similar technology, a young patient of Dr. Atala received an engineered bladder 10 years ago !

Watch the video here.

This Is Your Life …

… do what you love and do it often.

If you don’t like something, change it.

If you don’t like your job, quit.

If you don’t have enough time …

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Medicine’s Future

TED: Daniel Kraft – Medicine’s Future

Daniel Kraft offers a fast-paced look at the next few years of innovations in medicine, powered by new tools, tests and applications that bring diagnostic information right to the patient’s bedside.

Watch the video here.

Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)

by Baz Luhrmann. Watch the original video here. For the story behind the … sunscreen, you can read here.

 

Ladies and Gentlemen of the Class of ’99,

Wear Sunscreen!
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, “sunscreen” would be it.
A long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience.

I will dispense this advice now !

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Right and Wrong

When Bankei held his seclusion-meditation, pupils from many parts of Japan came to attend. During one of this gatherings, a pupil was caught stealing. The matter was reported to Bankei with the request that the culprit be expelled. Bankei ignored the case …

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The Thief Who Became a Disciple

One evening as Shichiri Kojun was reciting sutras, a thief with a sharp sword entered demanding either his money or his life.

Shichiri told him: “Do not disturb me. You can find the money in that drawer.” Then he resumed his recitation. A little while afterwards he stopped and called …

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Be Happy

A little book to help you live a happy life, by Monica Sheehan.

“Be Happy” began as one of the most popular cartoons from Monica Sheehan’s monthly feature on the back page of “Real Simple” magazine. Now her sweet and genuinely inspiring illustrations are collected in a book to remind us all of the simple things that really do make for a happier life.

Buy the book here.

 

Show up.

Follow your heart.

Stay inspired.

Stop being a victim.

Do things you’re good at.

Love your work.

 

Zen In a Beggar’s Life

Tosui was a well-known Zen teacher of his time. He had lived in several temples and taught in various provinces. The last temple he visited accumulated so many adherents that Tosui told them he was going to quit the lecture business entirely. He advised them to disperse and to go wherever they desired …

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The Dead Man’s Answer

When Mamiya, who later became a well-known preacher, went to a teacher for personal guidance, he was asked to explain the sound of one hand. Mamiya concentrated upon what the sound of one hand might be …

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Joshu’s Zen

Joshu began the study of Zen when he was sixty years old and continued until he was eighty, when he realized Zen.
He taught from the age of eighty until he was one hundred and twenty. A student once asked him …:

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In Dreamland

“Our schoolmaster used to take a nap every afternoon”, related a disciple of Soyen Shaku. “We children asked him why he did it and he told us: “I go to dreamland to meet the old sages just as Confucius did.” When Confucius slept, …

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1000 Awesome Things

Wanna lift up your spirits after a tough day ?

1000awesomethings.com, a fun site I just stumbled upon …

Publishing the Sutras

Tetsugen, a devotee of Zen in Japan, decided to publish the sutras, which at that time were available only in Chinese.
The books were to be printed with wood blocks in an edition of seven thousand copies, a tremendous undertaking.

Tetsugen began by traveling and collecting donations for this purpose. A few sympathizers would give him a hundred pieces of gold, but most of the time …

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Flower Shower

Subhuti was Buddha’s disciple. He was able to understand the potency of emptiness, the viewpoint that nothing exists except in its relationship of subjectivity and objectivity.

One day Subhuti, in a mood of sublime emptiness, was sitting under a tree. Flowers began to fall about him.

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Every Minute Zen

Zen students are with their masters a least ten years before they presume to teach others.

Nan-in was visited by Tenno, who, having passed his apprenticeship, had become a teacher. The day happened to be rainy, so Tenno wore wooden clogs and carried an umbrella. After greeting him Nan-in remarked: …

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Mokusen’s Hand

Mokusen Hiki was living in a temple in the province of Tamba. One of his adherents complained of the stinginess of his wife.

Mokusen visited the adherent’s wife and showed her his clenched fist before her face …

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Everything Is Best

When Banzan was walking through a market, he overheard a conversation between a butcher and his customer.

“Give me the best piece of meat you have”, said the customer

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Callling Card

Keichu, the great Zen teacher of the Meiji era, was the head of Tofuku, a cathedral in Kyoto.
One day the governor of Kyoto called upon him for the first time. His attendant presented the card of the governor, which read: “Kitagaki, Governor of Kyoto.”

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Open Your Own Treasure House

Daiju visited the master Baso in China.

Baso asked: “What do you seek ?”

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The Voice of Happiness

After Bankei had passed away, a blind man who lived near the master’s temple told a friend:

“Since I am blind, I cannot watch a person’s faces, so I must judge his character by the sound of his voice. Ordinarily, when I hear someone congratulate another upon his happiness or success, …

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Three Days More

Suiwo, the disciple of Hakuin, was a good teacher. During one summer seclusion period, a pupil came to him from a southern island of Japan. Suiwo gave him the problem: “Hear the sound of one hand.”

The pupil remained three years but could not pass this test …

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A Man, His Horse and His Dog

From the “The Devil and Miss Prym”
by Paulo Coelho

Once upon a time, a man, his horse and his dog were traveling along a road. As they passed by a huge tree, it was struck by lightning and they all died. But the man failed to notice that he was no longer of this world and so he continued walking along with his two animal companions.

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My Heart Burns Like Fire

Soyen Shaku, the first Zen teacher to come to America, said: “My heart burns like fire, but my eyes are as cold as dead ashes.”
He made the following rules which he practiced every day of his life …

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Muddy Road

Tanzan and Ekido were once traveling together down a muddy road. A heavy rain was still falling. Coming around a bend, they met a lovely girl in a silk kimono and sash, unable to cross the intersection.

“Com on, girl”, said Tanzan at once. Lifting her in his arms, he carried her over the mud.

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The Moon Cannot Be Stolen

Ryokan, a Zen master, lived the simplest kind of life in a little hut at the foot of a mountain. One evening, a thief visited the hut only to discover there was nothing in it to steal.

Ryokan returned and caught him …

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The Birth of TouchOfZen.net

The idea of creating a web site to keep my collection of notes and experiences from work and life has been in my mind for quite a few years. There were many times I took the first step, I started creating something but never got to the end. This time was different though. I guess it was the name of the site that I chose that inspired me or something else, but nevertheless, the idea has now taken shape and form.

As for the geeky details, these are the parts under the hood that power up TouchOfZen.net.

Hosting Company

One of the main objectives in choosing a host company was an affordable feature-rich plan. A necessary requirement was also to have ssh access for ease of administration and maintenance. After comparing many hosting companies, the winner was GreenGeeks.com.

GreenGewww.greengeeks.comeks offers a plan called “Eco Site Web Hosting”. It features unlimited Web space, bandwidth, domains, email accounts and MySQL databases and a free domain name for life. GreenGeeks also provides cPanel, the most popular and easiest to use control panel to administer various aspects of the website and numerous other tools and software for building and maintaining a robust website.

But the most eye-catching feature of GreenGeeks is that it’s a certified green, Eco-friendly web hosting company. GreenGeeks buys wind energy credits to offset the energy consumption and to put more energy back into the grid which was produced by wind power technology. Furthermore it implements an overall green strategy in its day-to-day operations.

Content Management System – Blogging

The first version of the website was built using Joomla, one of the most powerful open source Content Management Systems (CMS), used for building from simple websites to complex corporate applications. The blog part of the website was built using b2evolution, a blog script featuring multiple blogs, categories, skins, search function, multiple languages, search engines friendly URLs, etc.
However, at some point my attention was caught by WordPress, a popular blogging software with focus on ease of use, elegance, performance and a huge selection of themes and plug-ins. After a time consuming but fun :-) migration, this is the final result.

WordPress Themes

My objective was to find a clear minimalistic theme that would actually reflect the name of the site. I’ve tried several themes and at the end I chose this one:

* Emptiness, Version 1.13.3, by Cliffano Subagio
A minimalistic theme that supports header and background images and a white background. Simple and clean with very lightweight HTML and CSS.

During my trial, the following themes would serve as good alternatives as well:

* Apricot 1.2, by Oliver Baty
* Basic2Col 3.1.2, by Kristin K. Wangen
* Codium Extend 1.0.9, by Henri Labarre
* cp-minimal 1.1.1, by Christian Proell
* Hybrid 0.9, by Justin Tadlock
* Oulipo 1.0.9.2, by A. Mignolo
* Pilcrow 1.0, by Automattic
* Platform 1.2.1, by PageLines
* SimpleDark 1.2.11, by Justice
* simpleX 1.3.3, by Chandra Maharzan
* Snow Summit 1.0.5, by weddingthemes.marriagescene
* Twenty Ten 1.2, by the WordPress team

WordPress Plugins

Based on my needs, I tried to keep plug-ins to the minimum and install only the necessary ones. The following plug-ins are used in general, even though some might be deactivated at certain times:

Advertising
Advertising Manager 3.4.19, by Scott Switzer

Breadcrumb Navigation
Breadcrumb NavXT Version 3.8.1, by John Havlik

Commnent and Trackback Spam Protection
Akismet 2.5.3, by Automattic
WordPress Hashcash 4.6 by Elliott Bac

Contact Form
ONW Simple Contact 2.0.1, by John P. Bloch

Facebook Share Button
FaceBook Share 1.9.2, by Appointy.com

Facebook Like Button
Facebook OpenGraph I Like Button 1.2, by Radu Boncea

PDF & Print Button
PDF & Print Button Joliprint 1.1.5, by Joliprint

Posts and Pages Indexing
Brog Indexor 1.3, by Brogol

Quotes plug-in
Shantz WordPress QOTD 1.2.2, by Shantanu Goel

Web Analytics
WP SlimStat 2.3, by Camu

 

That’s about it. Should you have any questions, comments or suggestions or would like to post an article or even start blogging, please contact me.

Obedience

The master Bankei’s talks were attended not only by Zen students, but by persons of all ranks and sects. He never quoted sutras nor indulged in scholastic dissertations. Instead, his words were spoken directly from his heart to the heart of his listeners.
His large audiences angered a priest of the Nichiren sect because the adherents had left to hear about Zen. The self-centered Nichiren priest came to the temple, …

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Is That So ?

The Zen master Hakuin was praised by his neighbors as one living a pure life.
A beautiful Japanese girl, whose parents owned a food store, lived near him. One day, she discovered that she was pregnant. This made her parents angry. She wouldn’t confess who the man was, but …

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A Cup of Tea

Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era (1868-1912), received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen.
Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor’s cup full and kept on pouring …

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Nails in the Fence

There was once a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, …

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The Professor and the Jar

A professor of philosophy stood before his class with a brown bag in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he took out a large empty jar and some rocks and proceeded to fill the jar with rocks. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was full.
The professor then took out a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly and …

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Did You Know …

… that those who appear to be very strong in heart, are real weak and most susceptible ?

… that those who spend their time protecting others are the ones that really need someone to protect them ?

… that those who dress in red …

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The Antikythera Mechanism

In 1901, a complex and extraordinary mechanism was found at the bottom of the sea and recovered from a shipwreck, near the island of Antikythera.

For decades, scientific investigation failed to yield much light as to what the purpose of this mechanism was. It was only in recent years that it revealed its purpose: …

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Παγκόσμια Υπερθέρμανση ή Παγκόσμια Ψύξη ?

Ελευθεροτυπία [www.enet.gr], Ιούνιος 2010
του Σπύρου Μανουσέλη
[http://www.enet.gr/?i=news.el.episthmh-texnologia&id=172012]

Ολοκληρώθηκε πριν από λίγες ημέρες στη Βόννη η Σύνοδος του ΟΗΕ για το Κλίμα, που ξεκίνησε στις 31 Μαΐου με τη συμμετοχή τουλάχιστον 190 κρατών. Και ενώ ο ΟΗΕ προσπαθεί να «πείσει» τις ΗΠΑ και την Κίνα να λάβουν κάποια μέτρα για τη μείωση των εκπομπών διοξειδίου του άνθρακα, προκειμένου να αποτραπεί η επικείμενη παγκόσμια υπερθέρμανση, μόλις ένα μήνα πριν, στο …

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Αρσενικός Εγκέφαλος – Θηλυκός Εγκέφαλος

Η αμερικανίδα ψυχίατρος Louann Brizendine, η οποία είχε γίνει διάσημη διεθνώς με το best-seller βιβλίο της “The Female Brain” (“Ο Θηλυκός Εγκέφαλος”), όπου είχε υποστηρίξει ότι οι γυναίκες έχουν διαφορετικά νευρωνικά κυκλώματα από τους άνδρες, τα οποία οδηγούν αναγκαστικά σε διαφορετικές συμπεριφορές, “ξαναχτύπησε” με το νέο βιβλίο της…

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Παραλογισμοί και Παρανομία

Καθημερινή, 16.03.2010
του Πάσχου Μανδραβέλη

Είναι σίγουρο ότι, αν μπορούσαν, οι δισκογραφικές εταιρείες θα είχαν ποινικοποιήσει και το σφύριγμα. Διότι και αυτό έχει κάποιο μελωδικό σκοπό, …

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Actually Said in Court

The following conversations are from a book called “Disorder in the American Courts” and are things people actually said in court, word for word, taken down and now published by court reporters who had the torment of staying calm while these exchanges were actually taking place.

Attorney: This myasthenia gravis, does it affect your memory at all?
Witness: Yes.
Attorney: And in what ways …

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The Meatrix

The story we tell ourselves about where meat and animal products come from … Take a look at www.themeatrix.com

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Philosophy of Life

A boat docked in a tiny Mexican fishing village. A tourist complimented the local fishermen on the quality of their fish and asked how long it took them to catch them.

“Not very long …” they answered in unison.

“Why didn’t you stay out longer and catch more?” asked the tourist …

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Meditation

Meditation is a mental state where one attempts to get beyond the conditioned, “thinking” mind into a deeper state of relaxation or awareness. At the core of meditation, the goal is to focus and eventually quiet your mind. As you progress, you will find that you can meditate anywhere and at any time, accessing an inner calm no matter what’s going on around you.

There are many different meditation methods.
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Binaural Beats

Binaural beats are stereo recordings which play together two different tones (frequencies) simultaneously one in each ear. When listening to these two tones, the brain will perceive a third one heard in the form of a beat. The third tone is the …

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Life is a Hot Chocolate

A group of graduates, well established in their careers, were talking at a reunion and decided to go visit their old university professor, now retired. During their visit, the conversation turned to complaints about stress in their work and lives. Offering his guests hot chocolate, the professor went into the kitchen and returned with a large pot of hot chocolate and …

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Chicken a la Carte

In February 2006, at the 56th Berlin International Film Festival, filmmakers were invited to join a Short Film competition on the theme “Food, Taste and Hunger”. 3600 filmmakers from around the world joined the competition, but only 32 films were chosen to be screened at the Berlinale Talent Campus.

This film topped the competition by being adjudged the most popular short film:
http://www.cultureunplugged.com/play/1081/Chicken-a-la-Carte
written, photographed and directed by Ferdinand Dimadura

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Bottled Water. Do We Need It ?

Bottled water is “tainted” by the production, transportation, packaging and disposal of the plastic bottles.

Facts

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Ba Gua Circle Walking: Applications for Tai Chi and Aikido

Bruce Frantzis held a Ba Gua seminar in Aikido Dojo Darmstadt, Darmstadt – Germany on 2 Nov. – 4 Nov. 2009.

This was my first experience with Ba Gua and the first time I met Bruce Frantzis.
The seminar was mostly about energy, how we can become conscious with our own and others’ and how can we use it to our benefit … in martial arts and in everyday life.

These are some draft personal notes taken during the seminar …

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Everything is OK

Everything is OK (Corporate Property)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KGA9ZUEa3ZY

Everything is OK (The Hunt for Terror)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mzyPMx1Yx8o

Everything is OK (Corporate Requiem)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z6FWmHIJn2U

Everything is OK (Child Soldiers)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m1qAR1pdiGY

 

Ο Καλόγερος …

Ένας καλόγερος σε κάποια επίσκεψη στην Αθήνα, γυρίζει, γυρίζει και στο τέλος, κουρασμένος, κάθεται σ` ένα καφενείο. Μια κυρία στο διπλανό τραπέζι τον ρωτάει:

- Είσαστε αληθινός καλόγερος;

- Να σου πω, …

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